Why Breakups Happen

Koi bhi relation love se banta h, love karna to bahut asaan hota h bt use nibhana bahut mushkil.  Love se relation banta to h, par relation nibhane k liye har relation me, Ek dusre k beech understanding, care , ek dusre par bharosa hona, ek dusre ko lekar respect in sab ka hona bahut jaruri hota hai. Jaha bhi inme se ek bhi cheez kam hui relation me problem aana start ho jati h. Dheere dheere ye problems badh kar break up ka reason ban jati h.

Why Breakups Happen

Infatuation

Kai baar hum infatuation ko love samjh lete h aur ye soch k hum us insaan k sath commitment kar lete h ki hum lift time partner ban k sath rahege.but kuch waqt sath rahne k baad unhe realize hota h ki wo dono ek dusre k liye compatible nahi h.dono ek dusre ki kamiyan aur unki problem ginane lagte h.aur ek dusre se irritate hone lagte h.jabki   jab hum kisi se pyar karte h to us insaan ki kamiyon k saath karte h.wo jaisa bhi ho hume har tarah se acha lagta h us insaan k liye uski khushi k liye hum kuch bhi karne ko ready rahte h iske liye sochte nahi h.uske sath bitaya har pal humari happy memories ki tarah humare sath chalta  h.jabki infatuation(attraction) me humhe kuch din sab acha lagta h aur phir sab same.aur phir breakup.

Pyar Me Boundation

Aksar log pyar me to padh jate h aur kuch waqt tak unhe sab kuch bahut acha bhi lagta h bt kuch waqt baad log us relation se irritate hone lagte h kyuki unhe wo space nahi milta jo wo chate h.har insaan  free hota h apne dicision lene k liye bt kuch waqt baad ek dusre ko baound karne lagte h, tumhe ye karna chaiye ye nahi, yaha jana chahiye waha nahi,aise dressup hona chahiye,aise rehna chahiye…etc ye boundation kuch waqt baad irritate karne lagti h.aur tolerate nahi ho pati. Aur phir unhe ek dusre se breakup kar alg rehna jyada acha lagne lagta h.

Expectation

Jab hum kisi k sath relation me hote  uske close hote h to humhe automatic us insaan se kuch expectation hone lagti h aur  kai baar humari expectation poori ho jati h aur kai baar nahi bhi. Kai  cases me starting me hum ekdusre ko itna waqt dete h aur unki sari expectation poori karte h jisse humare sathi ko aadat ho jati h aur phir jab kuch waqt baad ye expectation poori nahi ho pati  utna waqt nahi mil pata sath me to unhe problem hone lagti h jo ladai ka issues ban jate h aur ek din ye issues badh k breakup ka reason ban jate h. Had se jyada ek dusre ko waqt dena aur h had se kam waqt dena bhi prblm hota h.isliye humhe humesha apne kaam me busy rehke sathi ko avoid ni karna chaiye aur na hi apne sare kaam ko chor k bas only and only sathi ko waqt dena chahiye ye b bahut badi problem ban jati h kuch time baad.kyuki  humare liye humare kaam aur dusre relation bhi jaruri hote h.

Trust

Jab hum koi relation banate h to wo pyar aur bharose k sath banate h.aur jab ye bharosa toot jata h ya kam hone lagta h to relation me darar aane lagti h.kai cases me log ek dusre ko dhoka de dete h but kai cases aise bhi hote h jaha dhoka nahi bhi hota par hum bevajah hi shak karne lagte h.isliye humein  apne relation me shak karne ki jagah uspar bharosa rakhna chahiye.wo kahte h na bharose pe to duniya chalti h. aapka relation bhi jarur chalega.

Understanding

Kai baar relation me sahi hote hue bhi  h  par phir bhi ladai hoti h kyuki dono sochte h ki wo sahi h to usko meri baat samjhni chahiye par hota ye h ki sahi dono hote h par unke apne point of view se par situation aisi aa jati h ki dono ek dusre ko galat aur khudko sahi sabit karne me lag jate h.aur aisa baar baar hone se relation me problems ana start ho jati h kyuki har koi yahi chahta h ki wo jisse pyar karte h wo bhi apko smjhe.aur phir dono ek dusre ko smjhane me lag jate h isliye khud ko sahi smajhane ki jagah agar hum apne partner ki jagh khud ko rakh kar sochege to hume smjh ayega ki wo bhi galat nahi h aur dono hi ek dusre k liye aisa hi sochne lagte h to problem kabhi ati hi nahi.isliye kisi bhi relation ko chalane k liye understandin ka hona bahut jaruri hota h phir chahe wajah koi b ho samjhne ki.

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